Caregivers rarely call me with a heart full of joy. Usually they call to ask for advice or to tell me of the decline in their loved one. Yesterday was a pleasant surprise. A woman called to tell me how wonderful it was to hear her mother talking and laughing again. My heart was thrilled to listen to her joy.
We had discussed the success we were seeing with the robotic pet and a caregiver’s wife at our last support group meeting. His wife loved her robotic dog and his only problem was keeping it clean due to her trying to feed it her food. I shared a video of my mother-in-law petting and brushing a robotic cat within days of her passing. Several in the group requested information on where they could get one.
One member of that group had gotten her mom a robotic dog this week. Her mom instantly started laughing and talking with the dog. She named it and told it that he was sleeping with her that night. Several nurses had dropped by to observe the interaction.
Sometimes we have to be creative in finding the little things that bring joy to the one we care for’s heart. Their delight brings us joy that we grab and hold on to. There is such a beauty in seeing their interest in life be activated by a tiny spark. I am reminded of a song from my childhood.
It only takes a spark to get a fire going,
And soon all those around can warm up in its glowing;
That’s how it is with God’s Love,
Once you’ve experienced it,
Your spread the love to everyone
You want to pass it on.
Today I just want to pass it on as I suggest things that may brighten your day. Listening to the favorite music of your loved one can sometimes bring a few moments of clarity and communication. Music is powerful and can release chemicals into the brain that bring peace.
For pet lovers, the robotic pets can bring comfort and alleviate loneliness. A company called Joy for All sells robotic dogs, cats and birds. You can view videos of these online. Some areas have pet therapy dogs that you can arrange to have a visit from.
Many people with dementia love young children. If you have family or friends with children encourage them to visit. An afternoon sitting on the patio and watching children play in water sprinklers or chasing bubbles can be fun for all. Watch funny animal videos or videos of babies and toddlers if you do not have little ones that can visit.
Read out loud. Reading books, poetry and the Bible can be comforting. A grandchild of mine would go sit in my mom’s room and read her children’s stories. Mom loved hearing her voice and my granddaughter who was learning to read felt comfortable because mom just smiled and never corrected her misread words.
Even if the moments of joy are fleeting and rare, they are real. You have made a heart connection that you can hold on to. Think outside of the box and look for golden opportunities to make these moments happen. Think like a child and play. The caregiver’s world is stressful. You deserve a break today. If you can still be mobile, go for a ride. Get an ice cream cone.
If you are unable to get out, try some of the above suggestions made above.
Be blessed and remember this. God sees. God cares. God is creative and will give you creative ideas that may inspire joy.
Word for Today
You have made known to me the paths of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence.’
Acts 2:28
Song for Today
Prayer for Today
God,
Today I come seeking the joy only you can bring. Restore my joy and teach me to delight in the moments of connection that I have with you and with the one I care for. Give me ideas and inspiration when my mind is focusing on meeting basic needs and stress creeps
Walking Them Home 